As one with the burden of God to bring back sanity into homes, I decided to write this book as a follow up to my already published piece on family titled: “Dismantling family Roadblocks”. It is a must read for every family.
I have been privileged to learn and understand a lot about marriage especially African Marriage in Diaspora through counselling and working with families under the verge of divorce. In some cases, there have been success stories while in others, it had been the cases of taking a horse to the stream and not been able to force it to drink water.
Marriage is under a serious attack in our present day than ever before. At the foundation of marriage, every marriage enjoys the benefits of God’s blessing and unity but human selfishness, Individual rights, pride, cultural difference play major roles in destroying homes.
Among Africans living in an environment in which marriage I believe has being devalued spiritually, socially and legally, couples face serious challenges in their marriages.
Hardly could marriage thrive in the truthfulness of its covenants with a threat of divorce or separation. Some people even question the existence of a good normal relationship and some of the problems in the face of marriage can be attributed to many factors. I remember a program I hosted some time ago on marriage where a brother in an attempt to help me jokingly questioned saying: “In normal or abnormal marriages!”
The house was engulfed in laughter. I however kept what he said to my heart. One of the things to realize these days is that there are normal and abnormal marriages. These when properly broken down might give rise to yet many more terms.
In reality however, there ought to be a single form of marriage: “A sanctified institution ordained by the Creator of mankind for the good of man”. In the scenario where there are different forms of it, one is left with just the choice of understanding how far things have deteriorated. This deterioration is largely traced to interferences by various cultures.
The term culture, according to the English dictionary addresses ideas, beliefs and customs that are shared and accepted by people in a society. Hence, it should be understood that it is something transferred from generation to generation. Broken By the Binder is an eye opening Book aimed at highlighting how our inability to blend the various cultures has hampered our efforts. Shattered dreams on one side, broken lives on the other! What about the toll of all these on our future hope: Our Children?
It is time to do something and salvage our homes. The time is now! Tomorrow may be too late. Go get a copy today. Give it as a GIFT to a family and allow the Holy Spirit to illuminate the eyes of men and women on how to add honey to our moon using the contents of this divinely inspired Book.
Shalom and more of God’s Blessings!
Pastor Darlington C. Jacobs
Chapel of Believers International Ministries Hamburg
+49 151 229 07 637